Nairobi Governor Mike Sonko has shared with Kenyan men the ‘secret’ to a successful marriage.
Taking to social media, Sonko shared a video of a woman who is speaking gently and respectfully to her husband on the phone while requesting for cash.
In the video, the unidentified lady constantly calls her spouse “mpenzi wangu” (“my love”) and ends the phone call by wishing him success in his day’s activities. (https://www.instagram.com/p/B0bZwJHhd2e/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link)
Sonko urged men to love and respect their wives if they want to be treated in the same manner as the woman in the video.
“For your woman to give you this kind of treatment you must love her and give her the respect she deserves. Don’t love other women more than your wife, just balance the equation and you will never have domestic issues in your marriage as we say marriage is about perseverance, ” he said.
Governor Sonko said his 21-year-old marriage to his wife, Primrose Mbuvi has been successful due to such conversations, urging couples to exercise humility and affection towards each other.
“This is the reason why my marriage with the 1st lady of Nairobi has been so successful for the last 21 years,” he wrote.
Why doesn’t he quit his job…
Why doesn’t he quit his job and become a marriage counselor since he has too much time on his hands instead of fixing Nbo – UGH!
Or let him go BROKE and poor…
Or let him go BROKE and poor and we see how it goes.
Is 21 years of marriage the…
Is 21 years of marriage the mile stone by which we should gauge the success or failure if marriages?Let’s ask people who have been married for over 35 years?.They should also tell us how they solve sex and money issues since those are the biggest marriage breakers.
“Taking to social media,…
“Taking to social media, Sonko shared a video of a woman who is speaking gently and respectfully to her husband on the phone while requesting for cash”. Bingo! The key words here is how to treat someone while, “begging for cash.” Sonko, why is your able bodied woman asking you for cash? Is she not capable of generating her own cash through businesses etc?
Maxiley, Sonko has given you…
Maxiley, Sonko has given you the answer. He says: “Don’t love other women more than your wife, just balance the equation and you will never have domestic issues in your marriage as we say marriage is about perseverance”. So, Sonko has mpango wa kando but keeps madam sweet by lavishing her with money. Win, win situation for Sonko! As for the common man, waswahili husema -mkono mtu haulambwi!
@ Sukari, asante for…
@ Sukari, asante for bringing me back to Kenyan mentality. For aminute… I was in Hollywood,CA.Interesting, balance bibi na mpango wa kando…That happens for people with deep pockets like sonko.Cannt see a security guard with 7 children some in high school,opting for mpango wa kando,that would be economic suicide.
Hi mambo ya mkono mtupu haulambwi does not seem to affect naijas from what I have read. Kenyan women go weak in their knees when they just hear the accent… naija no need da moni he go tel am lie after lie and de take her for bed and chop am well well…
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I just want him to tell us…
I just want him to tell us(me) how he keeps the fire in the bedroom burning. I have been married for 5 yrs and that department is dead. Not baba Raila but me.
Just like him, get a side…
Just like him, get a side-kick….a kaBen…and vwa-lah the fire is back.
Hizi ni dhambi hapa…
Hizi ni dhambi hapa unapreach but hey she asked so please throw ideas out there???!
When l married my wife, she…
When l married my wife, she was a fit size 6, clean and neat. 9 yrs later a size 22, picks nose while cooking and farts all night. How do you make it to 11 yrs while married to such?
He said it is through…
He said it is through perseverance, balance – loving her more than others and sweet word (maneno matamu). He says that will get you there at 11 years, not looks. All the best.
And what do you get in…
And what do you get in return?Permission for mpango wa kando?
By permanently loosing all…
By permanently loosing all you senses! Go blind, get deafened and loss your sense of smell!
Ha ha ha haaa aa. Mucang’ang…
Ha ha ha haaa aa. Mucang’ang’a, mbona umenichekesha hadi mbavu zangu zikakeka keka, kiasi cha kung’oka zilipohimiliwa? Kwanza, nataka nikushauri kwamba, mabadiriko uyaonao kutoka kwa mkeo yamesababishwa na wewe. Kiuno chake ambacho kimeongezeka karibu mara nne baada ya miaka tisa, kimesababishwa na uume wako ambao umemzarisha mtoto au watoto, upishi wake ambao anakula vinono kabla hajakupakulia, na mwisho kazi nyingi ambazo anaifanyia nyumbani kwenu ili familia yako ionekane ina mpangilio. Hata wewe tazama picha zako ulipokuwa kijana. Ukweli ni kwamba macho yako yamejipenyeza ndani pangoni mwa jicho lako, ngozi ilioko hasa karibu na macho yako zimechapa chapa, uso wako umebondeka bondeka na kujinyofoa karibu na macho yako. Hivi karibuni, vikalio vyake vitashuka usitambue kama yuanda mbele au nyuma. Mie wangu ameyafikia pahala hapo, na ningali namuona yeye mrembo wa nyakati hizo za ujana wetu. Haya yote ni maumbile na mpangilio wa aliyekuumba wewe. Utakapomaliza kazi aliokupangia wewe uibadilishe dunia kwa namna yako, basi hatakuhitaji tena. Nakusihi ubadirishe msimamo wako mkali dhidi ya mkeo, kwani warembo wangali wanazaliwa.
??? reality versus…
??? reality versus expectations kweli!!
@Mucang’ang’a, when she…
@Mucang’ang’a, when she married you. You were six pack. 9 years later you are pregnant but you do not give birth. Sad you pregnancy is permanent. How will she stand you for the next 11 years?
You all have time to waste…
You all have time to waste on Sonko’s bull shit
@Loise..I don’t think it’s…
@Loise..I don’t think it’s bu**sh%%t really. The man has been married for more than two decades. That is a lifetime in today’s marriages and as the brothers bemoan above, this is a challenge for them! I say and repeat, any partnership needs firm boundaries and delegated tasks, i.e your general duties when in the kitchen, bedroom ama huko inje, e.g kanisani. As long as one does these well, i.e a great cook, great lover and a saint in church (or in the community) the partner will have no reason to sample elsewhere! However, in this day and age where we scramble for equality, the men often feel shortchanged and the women…well, always looking for that perfect super male provider with a great libido, great looks and endless stamina! The result: A deeply dissatisfied people, for such perfection does not exist and if it does, is a rare gem.
I think cooking well is…
I think cooking well is overrated, with all available sources of chapos from Naivas to Carrefour , washing machines,- the needs for a wifey might be different now . I also think women now have mpangos ya kandos with young guys with great libidos- why not ! In this day and age more of the reasons of sampling – a whole lot of world to chose from – swipe left or right :-). The only reason why Sonko marriage is “working” = MONEY , hiyo tuu, there is no science there or kuchambua anything
FG2, you may be right sis! I…
FG2, you may be right sis! I for one still subscribe to the school of thought of: Changu ni changu sio chetu! Loosely translated: I would never cheat and expect he does not. I am possessive of my kitchen and don’t expect my dude to hover around unless: a) He is roasting nyama choma. b) He is using his imagination in whipping up some excitement in the mix (there is more than one way of skinning a cat, if you get my drift). c) I am not well and he either gets in there or we starve! In return, I demand and expect a dume in and around our house and not a house mouse. I also don’t expect him to be dripping with money, just some self respect and can do attitude. He knows his place and I, mine. However, I am not blind to the fact that guys can/do dog…..siweji kula sahani mbili, uroho sina. Mmoja tosha kwa vile mchuzi wake mzito na mtamu sana therefore siwezi vutiwa na mchuzi bandia! Now, if I had a Sonko, I would probably be agonising over every missed meal, late night phone call..no thanks, I will pass. Wanawake ni wengi just waiting in the wings to milk the Sonko’s of this world. I will stick to the recipe passed down to me. On the other hand, he can go sample some Tusky’s chapo, etc..shauri yake. Lakini akija nyumbani lazima awe na space ya kula home food, awe ameshiba au la. This is an unspoken rule.
so here is where we differ…
so here is where we differ. I’m so not traditional in every sense of the word including bedroom matters, to the chagrin lol wacha nisiseme… But I’m in this weird believe you do what you are good at in this relationship. He would like to think his stew is the mother of all but maybe mine is *** wink***. I pretend my host roast is awesome but yeah his special touch makes tastier
The recipe in a relationship based on mine is; there are no boundaries sijui Lane yako. You bring what you bring. if I bring more money, you compensate elsewhere, not a manly thing or woman thing. Matters of bedroom, continuous education, kama hashiki vizuri with tenderness , I can , kama hajiskii 2nd round , it’s fine nikijisaidia etc…. Now that is all. No science but it takes time, maturity to get there, that’s it!!! Fyi, akikula nje, less dishes for me or teenagers to put in the dishwasher, less cost = looking through things in economist lense!
Btw ati wanawake ni wengi,…
Btw ati wanawake ni wengi, true but if you don’t want the man to stay let him loose, no restrictions, atarudi tuu if you are confident in who you are, hiyo tuu.
@FG2..you made me laugh..yes…
@FG2..you made me laugh..yes I can see we have some differences. I will point out though, I don’t have him chained to the bed or on a noose like a goat! No…I give him his freedom and he grants me mine, lakini as far as I am concerned, if he eats out (as in sneaking, not socialising with his mates), then I will be in on the game. Less cost for you? Mhh..I think it is the reverse, as he uses the coins for the kids kiddy bank! Hawa wanaume ni nguo zina wafafanua, wana macho kama wipers za gari, huku na kule! Next you know someone is claiming to have a kid on the side. My formula is not perfect but works for me…for now at least. Wanaume ni visanga and the best ones are either claimed for, dead or….
@Sukari – as long as he is…
@Sukari – as long as he is not touching the joint account, my account, kids college fund, our retirement coffer, then he can drain his own account – bottom line is – he knows what he’s got , akitaka kwenda, mlango iko wazi, and there is a road right after it, heck, because I’m not too shabby me’ self , still a catch in all ways , that’s right – I can get my groove back in costa rica ama zanzibar esp now that kids are already grown ha hahaha..looooooool
Ha, ha, ha! FG2…I wish I…
Ha, ha, ha! FG2…I wish I had that spirit.as the Indians used to say..potea, potea! Kila mtu na lake!